Tuesday, 3 May 2011

Positive Beauty Pledge

For a while now, I've been thinking about running an on-going Positive Beauty feature, but hadn't really known how to go about it. However, anyone who subcribes to Psychologies Magazine (I say "subscribe" because I have a copy, but it doesn't appear to be on the shelves yet??) may have come across their "Positive Beauty Manifesto". In all fairness, I haven't actually read the entire section yet (perhaps because the boyfriend keeps stealing it to read the "pervy" parts! Do males ever grow out of that? It used to be the problem pages of teen mags, now this....!!), but it sparked my immense enthusiasm to get this feature rolling.

When I was a little younger, I used to always hear comments, like this (not necessarily directed at me):

"Why do you need make up? It won't do anything for your ugliness?"
"You really should start wearing something on your face..."

And even the media is jam-packed with:

"She's too fat."
"She's too thin."
"She's too pale."
"She's wearing too much makeup."
"Ohmigod, she's not wearing any makeup.."

As you can tell (and are probably full aware of yourself), most of these comments are contradictory, and it is of no surprise that so many of us have body confidence issues. And I also hate the fact that if you wear makeup, so many people comment that it's because you're looking to attract a member of the opposite sex, when in truth, I bet the majoirty of us wear makeup for ourselves, to make us feel happy in our own skin. Screw men (not literally, in this case!), because we need to believe in ourselves first, thank you very much!

Therefore, I have decided to set up, a Positive Beauty Pledge.

What does the Positive Beauty Pledge mean?

Anyone who agrees to the Positive Beauty Pledge must:

  • Promise not to judge others on the way that they look
  • Promise not to judge themselves too harshly
  • Realise that no one is "ugly", but most important, you are not ugly
  • Realise that you are beautiful, in your own way, and if others don't like it, that is their problem, not yours
  • Realise that you have the right to look and dress how you like
  • Acknowledge that everyone is unique
(If anyone can think of anything else to add to this list, then feel free to let me know!)

What do I get out of the Positive Beauty Pledge?

Anyone who takes the "Positive Beauty Pledge", gets to display this badge on their blog/profile/where ever you fancy:

Okay, so the badge isn't very pretty (I'd like to say that was deliberate and to make a point, but who am I kidding, I'm just rubbish at making badges!!), but it serves a purpose!

The badge represents the fact that you are happy (or determined to make yourself happy) in your own skin, and your promise to at least become more open-minded towards others who you may not consider to be attractive.  

How do I become a Positive Beauty Pledge?

Ah. Well, you knew that this wasn't going to be easy, didn't you? And, let's just say that this is not a case of "Take the Badge, and Run!", nope, to get this badge, you have to earn it, and so I shall tell you how you can do that:

To become a successful pledge you must:

  1. Fill out the Pledge Form (just a few simple questions, nothing too difficult)
  2. Send two photographs of yourself:
    1. The first must be a recent one. This must be a picture that you are not completely happy with how you look
    2. The second can be recent or old, that's your choice. This must be a picture that you think you look absolutely great.
  3. Answer a few questions regarding your photographs.
Note: All answers, pledges and photographs will appear on this blog, so you must agree to this.

If you are interested in becoming one of the first Positive Beauty Pledges, send me an email at katmusselwhite@gmail.com

Let's get thinking positively girls, because we all deserve to feel beautiful!



  1. This is a really lovely idea, although I'm shocked it was generated by psychologies magazine. I've never read that mag, but as a psychologist I know that people automatically judge others and it's actually subconscious and we can't stop ourselves unless we consciously think "no, shush brain!". And it's ok to judge, as long as you don't say it outloud or act upon it.

    Anyway sorry for the psychology theory rant... this is a really lovely idea and as someone who HATES it when people pass comment on others looks (real life people, we're all guilty of looking at a celeb and thinking WHAT ARE THEY WEARING?!) I am behind this campaign

    Great post xxx

  2. This is a brilliant idea, perhaps I will be one of the only people to be honest and say that I judge myself quite harshly and pretty much every day, I've done it for as long as I can remember, too fat, too big thighs, bad eyesight, bump on nose, I can always pick faults with something. I don't want to ....it just happens. I am not sure in that case whether it is good to take the pledge? As obviously it's not going to be possible to change my whole personality? I don't know, it's a great ideal to live up to but I just don't know if I would manage to do it for even a day! xxx I wish I had more confidence!

  3. Thanks for your comments. I definitely see where you're coming from.

    I don't think any of us are really ever going to give up on our self-image negativity (the media makes sure of that!), and I too judge myself incredibly harshly, and no my pledge will never change how I really feel about myself. But, I just think that by doing the pledge we're showing a bit of unity and saying that none of us are perfect, we all have our hang ups and that it is completely normal. So that other girls (and guys) can come along and see that everyone judges their skin, weight etc in the same way. It's just raising awareness and encouraging people to not necessarily change their personality, but just to give yourself a break and accept that we're all in the same boat :)

    I guess what I'm saying is, that maybe the pledge isn't for us, it's for everyone else, if that makes sense.

    Don't feel like I'm trying to pressurise you into doing the pledge, by the way, only do it if you're 100% comfortable, and if you're not, that's cool :)

  4. This is such a wonderful idea! Thank you for standing up for positive and healthy beauty!

    I have nominated you for the Cute Blog Award, as I think these post are just amazing!


    Enjoy! x


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